Welcome to the forum. Are you able to view the cameras web interface using a browser? The first step is finding the cameras ip address. Use this utility
http://www.axis.com/techsup/software/iputility/
Then make sure the ip address is within your routers range...so if your router is at 192.168.1.1 your camera should have the 192.168.1.X with X being 1-150 for example...you need to set this address to be static...you can do this from the router by using dhcp reservation/static ip...
Once you have that info, in
blue iris select axis m/p/q series h.264 (not mpeg) from the drop down in the video tab (camera properties>video>configure)
enter the ip address, user name and password....
as far as the remote viewing see the end of this thread
http://www.ipcamtalk.com/showthread.php?1442-Purchase-Full-Version&p=13001#post13001