wpiman
Getting comfortable
As an electrical engineer myself, they've answered all your questions pretty well, in what I think is pretty understandable language. I'm not sure where the disconnect is.
Much appreciated since I had a few glasses of wine and didn't have my glasses on when I typed it out on my phone.
I think the confusion is that all the "grounding" on the sides of the transformers is done at each house side is done in the equipment itself per the spec. If you tried to run a RS-232 or another comm with a ground pin, then this discussion has some merit and becomes very interesting.