I don't think I've heard of anything 3rd-party (like Qnap/Synology's surveillance software) that is currently able to see Dahua IVS events.
Someone posted a PERL script here that could trigger based on them, and IIRC
Blue Iris has the foundation to be aware of them (the "Get events with PullPointSubscription" option), but the last I read (a few months ago), it wasn't working.
My experience with Blue Iris has been that its server-side motion detection works just about as well as Dahua's IVS events. It has more capabilities, but I just haven't been able to nail down false alerts caused by rapidly moving shadows from puffy white clouds flying by on windy, sunny days. Dahua IVS never alerted on those. I've gotten BI setup to mostly not alert me on those (using zone crossings, etc), but there are some days where I just have to mute BI alerts for two hours at at time, until that weather passes. That's my only gripe about BI. Other than that, I love it so much more than my old Dahua NVR (since sold).